If you are a victim of domestic violence

If you are a victim of domestic violence the most important thing you can do is admit that it's happening and tell someone. There is no excuse for domestic violence, so you shouldn't make any on the abusers behalf. You have not done anything wrong, and you are not to blame.

It is natural in your situation to feel scared, particularly if you feel that by contacting the police you are putting yourself in danger. But it is our duty to protect you, and by contacting the police you can take positive action against the person harming you. Victim support agencies are also available for you to speak to.

This website also contains information on safety advice and planning to leave.

If someone you know is a victim of domestic violence

If you are a relative, friend, neighbour or colleague of someone you think may be a victim of domestic violence the most important thing you can do is to be supportive.

Don't pretend that the abuse or violence is not happening, or leave the victim isolated even if their actions seem irrational or illogical to you. As an outsider it may be hard to see why victims don't leave abusive relationships, or why they return to them.

The victim may not want to admit that he/she is in an abusive relationship. However, it is important that he/she knows you are there to provide support and help when it is most needed.

It is very hard for victims of domestic violence, but it is also hard on their friends and relatives. Remember, you do not have to take the burden alone. There are specialist agencies you can talk to, trained to look after your welfare as well as the victims.